Dead woman talking
Thu, October 24 2002

Locked away in a New Delhi police station are three diaries that detail the life of a 27-year-old woman.

They tell the story of a new bride's love for her superstar husband, about her joy at giving birth to their daughter and about her life in Canada

The diaries also paint a picture of frustration and fear, jealousy and rage, neglect and desperation.

Not long after her last entry, Anju Ilyasi travelled to India from Ottawa and confronted her husband Suhaib Ilyasi at their New Delhi apartment.

Minutes later she lay dying with multiple stab wounds in her abdomen.

Last week, two-and-a-half years after Anju's violent death, her husband Suhaib Ilyasi, former producer and anchor of the TV serial 'India's Most Wanted', was formally charged for allegedly harassing his wife for dowry and forcing her to commit suicide.

Indian police and prosecutors said Anju's diaries written between 1993 and 1999, much of it in Ottawa, will be used to tell her story in the courtroom.

A senior police officer quoted in the Indian Express said, "Witnesses may give contradicting statements and fight amongst themselves. But they cannot ever undo what Anju has written in her diaries. And that is our trump card for the complicated legal battle that lies ahead."

Anju, Indian police say, had committed suicide on January 10, 2000.

The police said Anju had stabbed herself at 11 pm and was declared dead by doctors at 12:28 am.

The only other person in the apartment that day was the couple's five year old daughter, Aliya.

'Mamma ko pet mein dard tha, phir woh so gayeen' (Mother had a stomach-ache and then she slept)," is all that Aaliya remembers of the night her mother died, say family members.

Indian police originally arrested Suhaib on March 28, 2000 but were forced to release him when they failed to lay charges on time.

Rashmi Singh, Anju's sister, who lives in Ottawa, later flew to Delhi and alleged Suhaib had demanded dowry. She claimed to have heard heated arguments between the husband and wife when she called up Anju from Canada.

She said Anju was planning to leave her husband and move to Canada prior to her death.

In a police statement, the Ottawa kindergarten teacher, alleged Suhaib was continuously harassing her sister, both mentally and physically and even tortured her.

She claimed Suhaib and his family members were making monetary demands after the marriage, which was solemnized in November 1993 in London.

Rashmi Singh has also given police her sister's diaries, written while Anju lived with her, and letters to back up the allegations.

In the diaries, Anju wrote both in Hindi and English :

"I love Suhaib so much but he does not care for me... When I first met him, he was a completely different person... now he has changed. He does not feel for me any more. He does not love me..."

On another page, Anju wrote, "Suhaib wants me to be like Umer's wife. But how can I be like her"

Several entries in the diaries are addressed to Suhaib while others viewed by an Indian news reporter describe her deep love for Suhaib and reflect her anger and helplessness at the way things were turning out in her life.

Several times she accuses Suhaib of not giving her money to meet her personal expenses while he apparently spent a lot of money on his own trips abroad.

In one of the diaries, Anju blames Suhaib for harassing and torturing her every time she committed a mistake at home, when the food was not ready when he came home and when she questioned him when he came home late.

"He is always looking for an excuse to get angry on me," she wrote.

In another section an angry Anju wrote in Hindi:

"Kamina....rakshas...uska sapna hai ki woh mujhenaukrani banake rakhe. Mein aise nahin hone dungee." (He thinks he can keep me like a servant in his house. I will not let it happen.)

There are several instances in the diaries where she refers to Suhaib's business partner Mrs Nayyar and her daughter.

"I don't like Mrs Nayyar picking up my husband in the morning and dropping him home after work," she wrote.

"He spends a lot of time at her house too."

For his part, Suhaib Ilyasi said the new charges stem from his dead wife's sister wanting custody of his daughter.

"No one can separate me from Aliya. I have been very disappointed with what has happened to me. There was a big ploy to shut down my programme India's Most Wanted. I broke down completely," Suhaib told an Indian newspaper.

"I was also contemplating suicide," he said. "Senior officials were telling me that the case may be dropped soon. Do you know I have been charged for asking for a dowry of Rs 18,000 (C$582) My wife's relatives have been able to file this case... despite the fact that my mother-in-law, Rukma Singh, has said in an affidavit that I am innocent and that I would hurt myself, but not someone else."

Rashmi Singh has denied the accusation that she wants to bring Suhaib's daughter to Canada.

"I love Aliya. That smart, intelligent little kid is like a daughter to me. But I am not taking her with me to Canada. She will stay with my mother at Unesco apartments in east Delhi when I leave for Ottawa," Rashmi told The Indian Express.

Meanwhile, the man who hosted the hard-hitting television show, India's Most Wanted, is now planning a film starring a top Bollywood actress with himself doubling up as director and hero.

Bollywood magazines reported that Suhaib Ilyasi has signed Amrish Puri, Paresh Rawal and Johny Lever for major roles and is negotiating with Aishwarya Rai to play the female lead.

After India's Most Wanted was discontinued with Suhaib as its host, he became the most wanted anchor on television.

A survey last year ranked him one of India's top TV personalities.